With the invention of email and text messaging, people seem to have forgotten about the art of writing letters. Taking the time to write a letter for someone special not only shows them that you were thinking of them for more than the five seconds it takes to press send, but also allows you the opportunity to be creative. This is especially true if you are writing a dirty love letter. Why would you want to write a dirty love letter, you ask? There are several reasons why you will want to learn how to write a dirty letter.

A naughty letter is a great way to not only tell someone what he means to you, but also woo him in a way that will surprise the pants of him, literally! Who doesn’t like to know that they are desired? Slipping a sexy letter into his briefcase is a simple little gesture that will make his entire day, not to mention keep him thinking of you all day!

Aside from the element of pleasant surprise, a dirty love letter is a great way to open the lines of communication in a relationship. You can express your inner-most thoughts and desires without having to do it face to face which can prove difficult for some. Imagine that by taking a few minutes to write a letter simply expressing your longing. You can make his day, keep you in his thoughts, make him look forward to coming home to you, and likely begin to get the sex life that you’ve always craved.

Here are some how to write a dirty letter tips to get you started on your sexy little project:

1. Take the time to choose pretty paper and then spritz it with your perfume to remind him of you every time he even just opens the drawer or briefcase he keeps it in.

2. Don’t hold back and say what you feel, especially the things that you don’t yet have the nerve to say face-to-face.

3. Compliment him. You want the letter to make him feel as good as possible.

4. Be descriptive. This does not mean you have to use nasty phrases, just tell him how he turns you on and how sexy you find him.

5. Give him something to look forward to like a sensual bath for two at the end of his work day or an erotic massage.

You are only limited by your own imagination when it comes to writing a dirty love letter. Think about the look of sheer and utter surprise that will be on his face when he receives a letter from you that expresses your desire for him and use that as your inspiration to get past your hang-ups and express how you really feel. Then get ready to be thanked for it, over and over and over again.

I hear the question, how to talk dirty to my boyfriend, all the time. Talking dirty to your boyfriend is definitely a far different deal than doing so with a one night stand or some random guy online. Just because he’s your boyfriend doesn’t mean it is any easier, on the contrary! The fact that you two already know each other well could make it harder to start throwing in some hot talk between the sheets, especially if you’ve never talked that way as a couple.

When it is someone new or who is practically a stranger, you have the freedom to be anyone you want, even a total vixen! With a boyfriend though, you may worry what he’ll think of you for spewing obscenities like someone who’s been possessed or just feel shy, if not embarrassed, to be putting on this new sexy act. Don’t fret my sexy talker in training! There is hope for you yet!

A big part of talking dirty and pulling it off is being confident enough to do it. If you’re feeling self-conscious, you should keep in mind that your boyfriend wouldn’t be with you if he didn’t find you sexy. You should also keep in mind that survey after survey has shown that men love it when a woman takes the initiative in bed or is sexually adventurous. So, no matter how timid your man may be, chances are that hearing you purr a few sexy words between the sheets will drive him wild, so stop second-guessing the vamp in you and get talkin’!

Deciding how to start talking dirty to your boyfriend really depends on the situation. Saving it for the bedroom after things have started rolling along is your best approach if you want to be cautious as he will already be fully aroused and doing the deed. Slipping in a couple of louder moans than usual is a nice segway which can be followed by a couple of ooh’s and ahh’s and then finally, you can begin with a breathy, subtle statement. Take note of his expression and actions. It will be really easy to know if the comment was well received, and if it was, go in for the kill.

If you’re feeling a little bolder, try using the dirty talk as a foray to your night of sheet-dampening pleasure by slipping it in before it’s time to head upstairs. Send him off to work in the morning with a kiss and a whisper along the lines of, ‘I wish I could keep you all to myself today’, and throw in a wicked grin and a wink. That alone will get his mind racing. Give him a call around lunch time and tell him that you’ve been having some very naughty thoughts since he left and can’t wait for him to get home. Feel free to be as descriptive as you wish! By the time he gets home, he won’t be able to keep his hands off of you and will be so worked up that he’ll be more than ready for any naughtiness that you throw his way!

Chances are that if you’re reading an article titled “How to Talk Dirty Online”, then you are having some difficulty engaging in naughty-chat or are anticipating some difficulty do it. Relax! Talking dirty online, believe it or not, is far easier than trying to do it in person or even on the phone. You may be at a loss for impressive phrases, but in terms of mustering up the nerve; no nerve required thanks to the anonymity factor of having the computer screen—not to mention miles—to hide behind!

To pull of online dirty chat, you need to stop being your own enemy and worrying about looking silly or slutty or anything other than sexy! You lack of confidence will show in your choice of words, so realize that if he is taking the time to sit at computer and type away, then he wants to be there having that hot chat with you—so what’s to doubt?

If you were to be talking dirty in person, then you could use toned down language and still get your point across thanks to body language and eye contact, but to give good dirty talk online, you’re going to have to focus on the words and pull out all the stops! It’s time to make good use of the words you were told never to say—not that you’re really saying them anyway!

Another thing that plays a part in how to talk dirty online is who you are actually talking to. If you are chatting with someone that you know and have been intimate with, then you can make reference to things that you have already done. It actually make it easier to start in on some cyber sex because you can say something like: “remember when we…” and let it go from there. While you may not have the easy intro with a cyber-stranger that you’re looking to have some harmless fun with; you really have no reason to hold back as he doesn’t know you from Adam. So feel free to get down and dirty and be the bad girl you’ve always secretly longed to be!

Master these little ditties and you’ll be a pro on how to talk dirty online:

Mmm… I’m getting so wet chatting with you.

I’m so horny

Is it bad that I’m touching myself right now? *wink*

I can’t stop thinking about that big, beautiful cock of yours

I bet your cock is getting nice and hard, hey baby?

I would love to be fucking you right now

My pussy is so pink and juicy. What would you do to me if you were here now?

I bet your cock would fill me up just right

What would you like me to do to myself? I’ll do anything you want.

I’m imaging you fucking me hard from behind

I’m playing with my clit right now.

You wanna fuck my juicy cunt, don’t you?

I could go on for pages and pages, but will let you get to it instead.

Happy Cyber Sexin’!

If you’re already in bed, then chances are you’re both already feelin’ a little randy, so figuring out how to talk dirty really depends on the person(s) you are with and the chemistry between you. Some couples are just naturally playful and flirtatious and let the sexual innuendos just fly when together, while others are a little more reserved and not quite as expressive sexually or otherwise. You need to be able to gage what would be a turn on and what might be deemed offensive—but don’t give it too much thought and let it inhibit your ability to enjoy the experience.

The best thing you can do when it comes to how to talk dirty in bed is to say what you want. Simply voicing that you want to ‘fuck’ or ‘make love’ is a huge turn on because it shows your partner that you want him. Telling him what feels good is another easy way to not only get him off with your naughty words, but also get you more of what you love so much. Tell him how amazing he feels inside of you and choose your language accordingly. Saying ‘I love how your big cock fills me up’ can have the same impact as ‘You feel so good inside me’ if you don’t often talk openly about sex or make a sound during the act. You want to be comfortable with what you say so to avoid it sounding scripted or forced.

Another key point when it comes to sex talk; please-oh-please avoid using clinical terms when referring to your genitals or anything else for that matter! You don’t have to use words like ‘cock’ or ‘cunt’ in order to enjoy some hot talk, but the last thing you want to do is use words like ‘vagina’ or ‘penis’ or ‘cunninglingus’! Note the difference:

Oh yeah, fuck my pussy baby. That’s hot

Oh baby, you feel so good inside me. Sexy.

Mmm, intercourse feels so good with you. Ick

Oh yeah, push your penis into my vagina. That’s just bordering on creepy!

Now that you have a better idea of what to say and what not to say when it comes to dirty talk, I can give you a couple of pointers on how to add to the intensity of your words and really mater how to talk dirty in bed. First; eye contact will add extra impact to any phrase, so use it whenever the position allows! Say it with confidence and it will up his confidence, cuz’ let’s face it; he wants to feel like THE MAN when in bed. And finally, relax and check your inhibitions at the door.

The most common mistake people make when trying to learn how to talk dirty is to think that you need to weave a tapestry of profanity to do it right! Dirty talk is not a mission to use as many C-words as you can or to come up with an elaborate script. It is about expressing what you want and how good you’re feeling and the language that you opt for should be no different than that which you would use normally. If you’re uncomfortable using words like: ‘fuck’ and ‘cock’, then trying to pull them off in bed will not likely translate as sexy. This is not to say that you should rule them out entirely since surprising your lover with this über naughty side of you could prove quite exciting; I just mean that you should stay within your comfort zone at least at first and remain true to yourself to avoid sounding contrived and insincere.

The most simple of phrases, when said just right, could have the same impact as using all-out porn star lingo. You don’t need to say “Fuck me now, big boy”; instead try whispering breathlessly, “I want you inside of me”. Instead of “I love your big cock”, you can run your hand over his package and say “Mmm, you’re so sexy”. See what I mean? You don’t need to risk offending anyone in order to engage in some dirty talk.

I have a theory which is basically that when you’re in the heat of the moment; almost anything goes as long as each word has a heavy breath behind it or is accompanied by an urgent tug, squeeze or even lick—this seems to work especially well on men who just seem to require a little less to no effort to become aroused!

One of the best ways to learn how to talk dirty is to get comfortable with expressing what you’re feeling in bed. This may seem like a lot to ask of someone who is on the shy side, but if you’re already naked and in the throws of lovemaking—what’s to be shy about? Tell your lover how it feels even if all you can muster is in the hint of a whisper: “Mmm, this feels so good” or “I love it when you do that”. It really is that simple. Just a little really will go a long way if you mean what you’re saying. If it feels awesome—say so! If you’re in the mood for some lovin’—say so! If you’re about to cum like never before—SAY SO!! It’s that easy.

Try to check your inhibitions at the door, say what’s on your mind and go with the flow. If you do that, then the right words will follow. That’s a promise.