Ah, dirty phone talk; practically an art form that I worried would become extinct since the invention of cyber sex, but, low and behold there are still many of us who enjoy a little naughty rendezvous au fone!
Dirty phone talk is great because you get to enjoy a little bit of anonymity since the other person can’t see you and you also get a little bit more intimacy than you would with cyber sex because you are connected by your voices. There is also something incredibly erotic about having to rely on your hearing alone when indulging in phone sex.
It has been said that when you lose one of your senses like your sight, your other senses like your hearing, become more sensitive. You can test this theory and really up the feel if your naughty phone date by turning out all of the lights and blocking out any other background noise so you are focused on nothing but each other’s voices. By doing this, you get to hear every delicious word, moan and breath and really feel as if the person is right there with you.
Sometimes your dirty phone talk session may be impromptu like if your lover calls and the conversation just happens to head in that direction, but when your night of phone sex is something that you’ve planned, whether with your partner or a stranger you’ve met on a chat line; getting into the right frame of mind before hand could help you get more out of your conversation.
Try spending a little time lying about fantasizing before the call or have a long hot bath with your thoughts to get the blood pumping to all the right places and make your skin super-sensitive to the touch, because you know that you will be enjoying some solo-touching during the call!
Depending on how experienced your phone-mate is; you may not need any help getting things started, but if you think you might need to do some initiating, there are a couple ways to get things going. We all laugh at the stereotypical question, ‘So, what are you wearing?’ But that actually is a great way to begin. You don’t need to ask the question, but volunteering the fact that you are ‘wearing some new lingerie that you just happened to be trying on’ when he called or that you’re ‘just stepping out of the tub and are still dripping wet and naked’ is more than sufficient as a segway to your pleasurable conversation!
Reading a hot excerpt from an erotic story is also a great one because you are using someone else’s words—perfect for you shy types! If you find yourself at a loss for words; talk about a past experience that got you really hot or an especially arousing film scene that does it for you every time. Things will definitely begin to flow from there—literally if done right! *wink*
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These are great ways to get a dirty conversation going. Sometimes you can get self-conscious about talking dirty, but the little bit of anonymity can go a long way to preventing that.