If you’re already in bed, then chances are you’re both already feelin’ a little randy, so figuring out how to talk dirty really depends on the person(s) you are with and the chemistry between you. Some couples are just naturally playful and flirtatious and let the sexual innuendos just fly when together, while others are a little more reserved and not quite as expressive sexually or otherwise. You need to be able to gage what would be a turn on and what might be deemed offensive—but don’t give it too much thought and let it inhibit your ability to enjoy the experience.
The best thing you can do when it comes to how to talk dirty in bed is to say what you want. Simply voicing that you want to ‘fuck’ or ‘make love’ is a huge turn on because it shows your partner that you want him. Telling him what feels good is another easy way to not only get him off with your naughty words, but also get you more of what you love so much. Tell him how amazing he feels inside of you and choose your language accordingly. Saying ‘I love how your big cock fills me up’ can have the same impact as ‘You feel so good inside me’ if you don’t often talk openly about sex or make a sound during the act. You want to be comfortable with what you say so to avoid it sounding scripted or forced.
Another key point when it comes to sex talk; please-oh-please avoid using clinical terms when referring to your genitals or anything else for that matter! You don’t have to use words like ‘cock’ or ‘cunt’ in order to enjoy some hot talk, but the last thing you want to do is use words like ‘vagina’ or ‘penis’ or ‘cunninglingus’! Note the difference:
Oh yeah, fuck my pussy baby. That’s hot
Oh baby, you feel so good inside me. Sexy.
Mmm, intercourse feels so good with you. Ick
Oh yeah, push your penis into my vagina. That’s just bordering on creepy!
Now that you have a better idea of what to say and what not to say when it comes to dirty talk, I can give you a couple of pointers on how to add to the intensity of your words and really mater how to talk dirty in bed. First; eye contact will add extra impact to any phrase, so use it whenever the position allows! Say it with confidence and it will up his confidence, cuz’ let’s face it; he wants to feel like THE MAN when in bed. And finally, relax and check your inhibitions at the door.
