The most common mistake people make when trying to learn how to talk dirty is to think that you need to weave a tapestry of profanity to do it right! Dirty talk is not a mission to use as many C-words as you can or to come up with an elaborate script. It is about expressing what you want and how good you’re feeling and the language that you opt for should be no different than that which you would use normally. If you’re uncomfortable using words like: ‘fuck’ and ‘cock’, then trying to pull them off in bed will not likely translate as sexy. This is not to say that you should rule them out entirely since surprising your lover with this über naughty side of you could prove quite exciting; I just mean that you should stay within your comfort zone at least at first and remain true to yourself to avoid sounding contrived and insincere.
The most simple of phrases, when said just right, could have the same impact as using all-out porn star lingo. You don’t need to say “Fuck me now, big boy”; instead try whispering breathlessly, “I want you inside of me”. Instead of “I love your big cock”, you can run your hand over his package and say “Mmm, you’re so sexy”. See what I mean? You don’t need to risk offending anyone in order to engage in some dirty talk.
I have a theory which is basically that when you’re in the heat of the moment; almost anything goes as long as each word has a heavy breath behind it or is accompanied by an urgent tug, squeeze or even lick—this seems to work especially well on men who just seem to require a little less to no effort to become aroused!
One of the best ways to learn how to talk dirty is to get comfortable with expressing what you’re feeling in bed. This may seem like a lot to ask of someone who is on the shy side, but if you’re already naked and in the throws of lovemaking—what’s to be shy about? Tell your lover how it feels even if all you can muster is in the hint of a whisper: “Mmm, this feels so good” or “I love it when you do that”. It really is that simple. Just a little really will go a long way if you mean what you’re saying. If it feels awesome—say so! If you’re in the mood for some lovin’—say so! If you’re about to cum like never before—SAY SO!! It’s that easy.
Try to check your inhibitions at the door, say what’s on your mind and go with the flow. If you do that, then the right words will follow. That’s a promise.
